Be Present

 High five Marie......exactly what I needed to hear. Can you resonate with this?

High five Marie......exactly what I needed to hear. Can you resonate with this?

Being more focused on my intentions. my why. these days.

I'm gonna be super honest.....ugly honest with you.

I've been floundering in the sea of ideas. dreams. hopes. and disappointments.

I've been judging... myself. my lack of growth. my lack of calmness is this sea of things whirling around me.

What was I missing?

Well. What I was missing was there in front of me all the time.

It took this last show I did here in KC so open my eyes. heart. and soul. To be able to see and feel that I was in fact grounded. I was not seeing or feeling it because I was too focused on my failures (at least in my mind I had failed myself), my shortcomings (why don't I have the following that others do), my "I NEED TO FIX IT "(again and again and again).

Why was this show different than any of the others I've done? What was the ONE thing that opened my eyes?

Things I did differently for this show boils down to this short list of changes:

  • Booth set up
  • Info cards with Gemstone Energy Healing Properties
  • Intentions to connect with people and not focus on sales

I've have visions of my booth being mostly white with small pops of brown, dusty rose and green accent colors. I have been striving for a soothing calm feel so when people walked into my booth they felt welcomed and experienced a sense of calmness. 

BOOM.......this happened. People were walking up to the booth and stating how they were drawn to it because it looked calming and beautiful. YAY!!!!!! I did it. Exactly the effect I wanted on people.

Next, they were drawn to the cards which I had frantically made the night before that listed gemstones with their energy healing properties. They were fascinated by which stones they were drawn to and excitedly pick one that resonated with them and their desires. SCORE. Don't know why I hadn't done this early. Better late than never.....right?

Lastly, I was able to connect with so many amazing ladies that weekend because of the focus I put on my why. The intentions I set for this show. The presence I had with each person.

Later as I was reflecting on the weekend I FINALLY realized I have done exactly what I had been desiring for my business since the day I sat down and designed my first bracelet. I traveled down the road of growth (the evolution of my designs), frustration (how to be discovered), success (which I was blind to due to looking too far into the future and not being present).....and only after taking a hot minute to stop and reflect did I realize I had made it. 

In the beginning of building The Onyx Feather I also had a personal blog Meet with Tisa where I offered up advice... some personal and some educational on how to overcome life's shit and rise up above it all to find yourself so you could start traveling through your life's journey with courage and intention. I struggled to separate the two, not sure how they could come together as one. Jewelry and for the lack of a better phrase Life Coach.

Then like a freakin sledge hammer to the side of my head (pretty sure it was my angel Grandma popping me on the side of the head) I saw it. I felt it. I smiled and shook my head Yeeeeees! And, yep before this show I found a black and grey feather lying in my path. I displayed the feather on one of the tables during the entire show.

Grey and black feathers bring the message: 

  • a message to find peace within yourself
  • the neutral aspect represents neutrality in your question - the answer is not black and white but grey, and hence neither yes or no but perhaps in the middle or a combination of both
  • wisdom & the attainment of mastery - a message that wisdom is within you
  • a nudge that you are on the right track
  • authenticity
  • flexibility

Through my presence and with sharing information regarding gemstone healing properties I was able to bring to two together. It was right there in the grey area all along. I was too focused on the black and white I didn't see it. It took me four years for this to come to light.

You may resonate with these same or similar struggles and needed to hear this story now more than ever. I send strength and courage your way. Look in the grey areas, what are they trying to tell you. 

 African Turquoise Jasper is a stone that awakens the soul. It provides structure, balance, prosperity, eases mood swings and encourages acceptance. 

African Turquoise Jasper is a stone that awakens the soul. It provides structure, balance, prosperity, eases mood swings and encourages acceptance. 

Like a Lotus Flower we too can rise above the muck with strength, perseverance, fortune and promise. Each day is a chance for a new beginning but we must be present in the moment to have an affect on it.

Imperfect Soul

Imperfect soul.......well now that's  some powerful words.

Imperfect Soul souls are what we grow

Not long ago I signed up to do an event because my friends couldn't (or rather wouldn't) stop saying how wonderful this event is and the chicks who put it together are A-MAZING.

I was a wee bit hesitant about this event, mainly due to the cost and actually the fact that I haven't done this event and I don't know if it will A-MAZING for me or not.

But these guys with their enthusiasm tamed my nerves and I jumped on board.

Money's Paid Now What?

Well let me tell ya! These chicks are A-MAZING. So they invited me to do a DIY class. And. I kind sorta freaked out a little. WHAT will I DIY. After putting some long moments and a few glasses of wine I came up with a rather brilliant idea.

People will love to make their own earrings. Better yet paint their own earrings. So, that's what I submitted. A hand painted leather earring class. They LOVED the idea.

Then, I started to sweat a little, okay a lot. How in the heck am I going to play this off. First, I gotta kinda act like I know what I'm doing. I can certainly create my own designs but to teach someone who may not have an ounce of creativity in them to create. Well. It may be an absolute hot mess of a time to be honest.

But, I'm not going to worry about that till I need to.

So the rest of the anxiety building moments are wrapped around getting the supplies together. Do I cut out the shapes or let them? Do I trust them with my expensive leather cutting scissors? Do I give them 2, 4, 6. or more choices of paint? Do I supply aprons or let the poor fools ruin their clothes (and why do I even care). 

All of these matters so much to me because I want them to have an A-MAZING time and create an awesome pair of earrings........and they will. I'm totes sure of it.

If That Wasn't Enough

These A-MAZING chicks also asked if I would kindly donate a piece of jewelry for a drawing and in return I could have my designs on one of the local news. 

WHAT!! I most certainly said YES.

But. Then I spent days trying to come up with the perfect pieces (that needed to be in fall colors per news station request). I'm not even kidding I spent at the very least 2 hours arranging and rearranging bracelets on displays until I found the look I was looking for. Then drove through one of KC's thunderstorms to deliver the items. Just so you know I made it safely.


These chicks are A-Mazing and they are Gaby and Aimee of Chick Event. These two ladies are wonderful to work with and I'm super excited to be part of their event.

Sometimes you just need to take that leap of faith to find a connection to others.

Stay tuned for the recap of the DIY class on September 9th. It should be entertaining to say the least.


Rise Above The Muck and Don't Give a F**K

The bud of the lotus flower symbolizes potential, it is pure, bright and absolutely beautiful.

Whereas the lotus flower represents an awakening, spiritual growth and enlightenment.

I'm sure most of you have seen lotus flowers clustered together in a pond......a dark murky still body of water. Yet the beauty of each flower gives the pond a splash of color.

Lotus flower symbolizes more over on blog at

How can something so beautiful emerge from the water so perfectly clean? It's hard to grasp that concept, isn't it?

But each flower does just that....emerging from the water clean, the lotus flower represents purity of body, speech and mind.

The lotus flower may be thought of as an awakened mind, one that grows naturally toward the light of truth, love and compassion. 

Although the lotus may appear fragile it is far from that, it is flexible and strong securely anchored under the surface of the water.

The ability to rise out of murky nasty water and open up to the sun in pure beauty and strength is why I chose to add the lotus flower to my designs. 

The lotus represents to me that no matter how ugly life gets we can rise above it all strong, focused, loving, and pure.

Seeing the lotus helps keep me in check with just how far above the muck I have come and how strong I am because of it.

Sometimes it takes a little muck for us to not give a f**k and stand tall for what we want and believe in.

Embrace the muck and as you rise above it open your heart and mind to the beauty around you. Close your eyes and empty your mind from the clutter, breathe in the freshness of the air. When you open your eye look around you and see the beauty that surrounds you. Express gratitude. Set your affirmations.

If you're having trouble seeing the beauty that surrounds you it may be a good time to declutter your life.

  • Declutter your home; become a minimalist.
  • Walk away from toxic relationships; even relatives.
  • Clean up your finances; Credit Karma is a good place to help manage your goals.
  • Detox your body; Cleanse, eat organic, drinks lots of water, do yoga, and meditate. 

This will allow you to FREE your mind, LIGHTEN your heart and OPEN your soul to possibilities. You will feel better and think clearer. You will smile more and worry less. You will be more positive and open to possibilities. Like the song goes "Free your mind and the rest will follow.....".

As I mentioned earlier the lotus helps to remind me that I have rose above my struggles (murky waters) and I'm a stronger person because of it. Wearing my lotus bracelet is a reminder of my strength and of the possibilities awaiting me. Get your lotus bracelet here

xoxo Tisa