No More CRAP.......please

Women go through some crazy shit sometimes. It's during these times we become stronger. But. We also feel the weakest. Head to read the new blog series Spirited Sister at www.theonyxfeather.com/blog/2017/8/7/spirited-sisters

Oh crap!

Life sure has handed me a pile of crap at times and I bet you can totally relate. This blog series Spirited Sister is all about getting down and dirty with just how ugly life can get and how you can come out smelling like a rose or patchouli (my preferred smell good).

Honestly though, I know I'm not the only one out there in the universe who has been or is stuck holding a pile crap and then looking at it like it's gonna tell us how to NOT be holding this pile of crap.

Girlfriend, let me just say this, NOBODY and I mean nobody wants to be in this place.....the crap holding place, EVER.

So. Why. Did I find myself over and over again at this same place with my hand full. You're agreeing with me, RIGHT? Because you've found yourself here more times than you want to confess to.

That's okay no need to confess babes, it's and unspoken understanding with most women. Hell, most days I believed it was a rite to passage into womanhood. Things just kept piling up. And. I'm not talking about the laundry although it sure was in the midst of the daily struggles.

The crap I'm talking about....well at least my list.... is, you finally get ahead and then: the car breaks down, the washer breaks, the baby needs new shoes, the baby gets sick, you get sick, you need new shoes, it's the holidays, prices go up on EVERYTHING, and the list goes on and on.

Then there's the relationship things like: abandonment, partner not working, partner leaves, lies, death, and the list goes on.

Then there's some trauma things like: abuse (verbal, physical, sexual), death, abandonment, and the list goes on.

These three categories will be the topics of the Spirited Sisters Blog Series. You will hear my stories and you will hear from other amazing women who have fought the same or similar battles that you and I have or are fighting.

You will find that you are not alone. You are not broken. You can lift yourself up and out of this pile of crappity crap and move forward with grace and determination to achieve all that you wish to achieve.

I'm not a licensed counselor. But. I have lived and learned a lot in my life. I feel that our experiences...the good and the bad....can truly be what another is needing to hear.


Interested in sharing your story with the Spirited Sisters head here to fill out the form for admission.

 

Thanks Babes,  xoxo


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Madness Behind My Pursuit To Rid Toxic Junk From My Life

The madness behind my pursuit to rid toxic junk from my life and why you should join me. Read all about over at www.theonyxfeather.com

I’m so excited to share with you my love affair with essential oils. I say affair because, let me tell you, these amazing oils are part of my everyday everything. No kidding!

My Oil Journey

May 2014. At first, I just went with the flow and used the oils primarily for diffusing so that my house would smell so refreshing and boy did it smell good. One weekend I had time to piddle around with the oils so I pull out some bowls and spoons rounded up a spray bottle, dug in the drawer for some roller bottles I previously bought for who knows what and got busy making a bug spray, a roll on for pains, and a roll on for cuts. 

So now I’m armed and not so dangerous with my small teeny collection of oil remedies. The next weekend I packed up my new BF (my diffuser) and grabbed my oils and bikini and headed to the lake to meet up with my for reals BFF.

This IS What Happen When I Got To The Lake

I start unpacking my super cool oil collection and my BF is watching me with the ever so curious eyes as I fill the diffuser and start it up, unpack my bug spray, and lay out my oils. I proceed to start spraying everyone with my super cool and wonderful smelling bug spray and we head out to the deck. The entire time we are out there not one single bug came near us. How cool is that. And no chemicals…..even cooler.

My Love Affair With Oils Started And I'm Not One Bit Mad About It

I couldn’t wait to make other oil recipes. And that’s exactly what I did. I now make my own face wash, face serum, face lotion, body lotion, household cleaner, fabric softener, hand soap, bug spray, lotion for poison ivy, sleepy time lotion and many other remedies. My next recipes I made was a Sea Salt spray for my hair and sunscreen. This new way of living is pretty dang exciting. I now know every single ingredient in my stuff.....all of my stuff. Stuff that I'm applying to my skin, the largest cell surface on our body that absorbs all the things and sends it straight into our system.

Basically, since May 2014 I have not taken a single Ibuprofen or Advil, used OTC deodorant, toothpaste, face products, sunscreen, allergy meds, or household cleaning products. I am so happy that I have been able to reduce the amount of chemicals that I put in/on my body and in the air. How awesome is this. Naturally made by the earth and offers so much more to our beautiful lives than any bottle of pepto bismol will ever offer.

No More Candles In My House

Did I mention I no longer use candles or other types of smell goods for the house…..just my diffuser. I also have not called in to work sick like many of my co-workers. When I feel something going on (like I might be getting sick) I go to my oils and BAM they do their magic. Not even joking. I DO NOT have a primary care physician.

So where do I get my oils? Not at the grocery store. Not at the health food store. Nope. I get my Therapeutic Grade Essential Oils from Young Living. YL oils are pure no synthetic additives added. YL harvests all of their oils and they do this all over the world. Really a fascinating company.

How To Start Your Oil Journey

I started my oil journey out with a essential oil starter kit. The kit includes a diffuser (which I run every single day) and a variety of oils to begin with.

If you have any questions about oils feel free to contact me. I would love to help you get started on a healthier journey.

I could go on for hours if not days about these lovely little oils and all the people I have helped by introducing them to the oils but you probably want to get started on your own oil journey so that you can also share with your loved ones.


If you're ready to join me on the oil journey you can sign up here. I can walk you through sign up or we can meet up if you're in the Tulsa area. Let me know how I can help.

I almost forgot.....this bracelet is an essential oil diffuser bracelet. Add two drops of your favorite oil to palm of hands and roll bracelet in between your hands and now you have an oil diffuser to wear. How awesome is that. 

Seriously though, these oils have changed my life in so many ways. I haven't felt healthier than I do right now. I love that I can simply refer to my essential oil guide book and learn ways to take care of ailments without resorting to using toxic drugs.


Hey babe you can click here to get started.

Checkout the essential oil diffuser collection.


 

 

 

 

 

 

Dreaming About Snakes......eeek!

Dreaming about snakes? I have been. Head on over to the blog to read more about how I shifted my snake dreams to less terrifying....www.theonyxfeather.com/blog

Have you ever woke up with an ah-ha process going on?

This is exactly how I woke up this morning.....and bright and early I might add. Weekends are my sleeping in and refueling time but this morning the universe had a different plan for me.
So I jumped out of bed - okay maybe not jumped up but my exit out of bed this morning was an energetic one - and headed straight to the kitchen to get the coffee started.


When I reached in the cabinet for a coffee mug my Rebel Fuel mug stood out so that was the one I grabbed. The perfect gift from my friends at Creative Biz Rebellion sent to me after being on their podcast...episode 16, which you should head on over and listen to this morning good stuff for ya in this episode.

Kitchen Floor Thinking Does The Job

After pouring my cup of coffee in my super cool mug I simply sat on my kitchen floor. Weird, I know but It's something I've always done even as a small child. I would sit or lay on the cold tiled floor and think.

I sat. I sipped. I did some thinking.

Rebel Fuel is what I needed to conquer my snake dreams. Find out more on the blog at www.theonyxfeather.com/blog

 

Thinking about why am I having dreams with snakes in them? I'm TERRIFIED of snakes!!!! I mean like big time terrified. I get anxious just seeing a photo of a snake and I certainly don't watch any movies involving snakes.

So why do I keep having these dreams that have the scariest snakes ever in them.

I've had two dreams so far this month with this snake in it. The snake is in my house and chases me and strikes towards me but doesn't bite me.......Thank God!!! Last night's dream I'm at my daughters house visiting and now there are two snakes in my dream. Each snake pops up in different parts of the house. They aren't chasing me as much in this dream as they just keep popping up in whatever room I'm in.

So I hit the interwebs to search out a translation to the meaning of these damn snakes invading my dreams. What message are they sending me? What do I need to do to get them out of my dreams?

So what I found out about my snake dream is: 

Generally, a snake featured in a dream means that you're dealing with a difficult situation of unsettling emotions in your waking life. On the positive side of dream analysis, dreaming of snakes could also mean that healing and transformation are taking place.

What Does it Mean to Dream about Snakes?

To get start interpreting what dreaming about snakes means, here are the most common meanings associated with snakes in dreams:

  • A snake is a symbol of the unconscious
  • Snakes or serpents indicate you’re in the process of healing and resolving issues
  • The snake is a symbol for an untamed part of yourself or an untapped resource
  • Snakes could represent your intuition or spiritual aspects of yourself; your instinctual drive, what moves you from the depths of your soul
  • Snakes or serpents tend to show up in dreams in times of transition and transformation
  • From the classic Freudian perspective, a snake or serpent is a phallic symbol

If you know how to interpret your dream, you may discover ways to resolve these issues and encourage your personal growth. Like the snake that strikes when it feels threatened, the presence of the serpent in your sleep symbolizes a wake up call to look at fears about your own feelings or a threatening situation in your waking life. All of this valuable snake info found at snakedreams.org.

This got me thinking. A lot. First thought was....really, a snake could this same message be sent by a bear?  Ugh! But a snake definitely got my attention.

Several things are going on in my life at the moment. Huge things. Life changing things. These changes I'm super excited about. But, also terrified about and as a Virgo very critical about these changes.

Hello I'm A Virgo And A Control Freak

By nature Virgos are perfectionist and must have control of all things. The decisions I'm making and will be making are based with uncertainty and are unplannable to a point. Not able to make a step by step plan with exact dates is messing with me.....a lot. I know what it'll take to get from point A to point B but what I can't write next to each step is a particular date for completion. Each step is literally up in the air until one or more steps fall into place. ARGH!!!!

I knew with my present moments being in total chaos I was needing some words of wisdom. Do I pick up a book or listen to a podcast about transformations and life shifts? Do I continue to struggle because I've always worked things out in the past? WHAAAAAT do I do?

I decided I needed a little help from my friends and a few bad ass women who speak great words of wisdom.

My list of survival tools:

What I noticed after I started the above list of goodness was that I was able to sleep better. My digestion improved. My anxiety calmed the F down. The snake dreams started changing. As I mentioned before the snake in my first dream chased me down striking at me with never biting me. The second dream one snake is now two snakes with less chasing but popping up in every room I was in. I'm hoping with more days/nights spent with my survival tools my future dreams of snakes will be of them leaving my presence.

Don't Ignore The Nudges

Take notice to the tapping or nudges on your shoulder and the oddness of your dreams. The universe is sending you a message. A message you need to receive. One thing that is so difficult for me to remember is that I am the only ONE that is in control of my life of the direction my life is heading. Ultimately my future depends on the decisions and actions I take today. Not daydreaming about my future but what I'm doing to for it.

The universe has your best interest at heart so pause and listen. You may not agree or like the message but at least listen and trust.