Did you know that making excuses steal your dreams? Whaaaat? Dream stealer?!?!?! No. Wait a minute. Isn't is suppose to be dream catcher. It's really difficult to catch your dreams when you may be burying them beneath your doubts.
Dreams. Desires. Doubt. This 3-step process is one that you go through whenever you start setting goals and are wanting to make changes in your life. Go get a shovel ladies......you will need it to dig yourself out of this heap of a mess. What I mean by this is you must change your thoughts about your circumstances. Toss those negative thoughts that we are going to call doubts out of your head.
When you're dreaming of .....fill in the blank here.... and your dream becomes a desire it's time to put on the boxing gloves. Your opponent in this match is YOU. Yes. YOU. When you start doubting your ability, your courage, your dream then get those gloves on and fight for what you desire. Don't let doubt win. Don't make excuses. Don't ignore your desires. Don't stop fighting. Allow yourself to dream!!
Time To Get Reacquainted With You
Spend some time getting to know yourself; really know yourself. Dig deep here, ladies. We tend to put everyone else before ourselves. That's not a terrible choice however, we must be a bit selfish and spend time on getting in touch with ourselves.
- What are your TRUE desires?
- Are you clear on your priorities?
- Are you aware of your thinking?
- Any trash thoughts holding you up?
- Have you cleared your mind?
- Are you making excuses?
Your Desires Are Important....To You
Write down your desires. Remember. This is important. Your desires. Not. Your spouse/partner, children, friend, co-worker, the lady down the street......okay you get the idea. Yours and yours alone. Write those bitches down.
Commit to your decision(s)/goal(s). Tap into that emotion. You don't have to justify the WHY. You decide. Are you going to honor your desires/dreams or your doubt??
Fa Getta Bout It
Clear up your priorities. What is really important to you to take care of immediately? If your phone rings or your phone alerts you that you have a new text do you nearly break a leg to get to your phone...... Lord, I hope not. Seriously, unless you're an on call doctor........fa getta bout it. Let the damn thing ring and go to voice-mail. Handle that shit later. Especially if you're having "me time" or spending some fun filled time with the fam or your BF.
Don't let technology rule your world. Enjoy and embrace time with yourself and others. Too many people are so wrapped up in their social media life that they totally miss. What is right. Smack. In front of them. Don't be that person that missed an amazing precious moment because you were updating your status. Really. That's dumb.
Meaningful Things are Key
So now that you're confused about your priorities. My bad. I know. I know. I know. Technology/social media is the WHY for a lot of you #girlbosses.......alls I'm saying here is give yourself a break and enjoy some quiet time. Listen to nature and the beautiful sounds around you. Take a moment to breathe in some fresh air. Take a moment to be still. Take a moment to let go. When you give your beautiful self these moments you'll find that you have cleared some fog and have unsurfaced some amazing thoughts. Thoughts that you can/will be your tools to bring your dream to real time.
Important key here should be.........meaningful things. Here it goes. Are you ready. Your desires should be a priority. Self coaching....meditation....yoga.....long walks.....glass of Reisling... anything that will clear the trash thoughts. Write your goals. Take action. Enjoy the results.
Things that take up your precious time that are not urgent should not override the importance of your priorities.
Set Some Time Aside For You
You may (and most likely need to) set aside a specific time for yourself to work on:
- Your goals
- Your priorities
- Clearing your mind to be void of trash thoughts
- Getting back in touch with yourself
This may sound frivolous. But. Aren't you worth it?? Just a few hours a week ........or more if you can dig up the time.........can give you many hours of happiness.
I'm a Dragon Slayer..yep, true story
I love my time sitting at home alone just thinking, being thankful, enjoying the quiet, breathing, dancing, singing, and loving the moment. It's such a feel good time for me and I totally connect with me. I listen to what is spinning around in my head. I figure shit out. I take action. I breathe. I love myself. It gets emotional sometimes.....and I'm okay with that. I own it. No self loathing from this girl. I'm way past that in my life. Not to say it doesn't rear it's ugly head at times. And when it does.....I'm like a dragon slayer, yes, I just said that........I take control and win every time. Some days I slay more than others....but in the end I win.
Dragon Slayers Unite
Time to take a stand ladies and become the Bad Ass Bitches that you are. Time to stop taking shit from people... including yourself. Slay self loathing when it shows up. Slay doubt when it interferes with your dreams. Slay that big ass Dragon and show it you will not accept anything less. Be willing to go after your desires.
You got this. Breathe and let go of the negative.