Be Present

High five Marie......exactly what I needed to hear. Can you resonate with this?

High five Marie......exactly what I needed to hear. Can you resonate with this?

Being more focused on my intentions. my why. these days.

I'm gonna be super honest.....ugly honest with you.

I've been floundering in the sea of ideas. dreams. hopes. and disappointments.

I've been judging... myself. my lack of growth. my lack of calmness is this sea of things whirling around me.

What was I missing?

Well. What I was missing was there in front of me all the time.

It took this last show I did here in KC so open my eyes. heart. and soul. To be able to see and feel that I was in fact grounded. I was not seeing or feeling it because I was too focused on my failures (at least in my mind I had failed myself), my shortcomings (why don't I have the following that others do), my "I NEED TO FIX IT "(again and again and again).

Why was this show different than any of the others I've done? What was the ONE thing that opened my eyes?

Things I did differently for this show boils down to this short list of changes:

  • Booth set up
  • Info cards with Gemstone Energy Healing Properties
  • Intentions to connect with people and not focus on sales

I've have visions of my booth being mostly white with small pops of brown, dusty rose and green accent colors. I have been striving for a soothing calm feel so when people walked into my booth they felt welcomed and experienced a sense of calmness. 

BOOM.......this happened. People were walking up to the booth and stating how they were drawn to it because it looked calming and beautiful. YAY!!!!!! I did it. Exactly the effect I wanted on people.

Next, they were drawn to the cards which I had frantically made the night before that listed gemstones with their energy healing properties. They were fascinated by which stones they were drawn to and excitedly pick one that resonated with them and their desires. SCORE. Don't know why I hadn't done this early. Better late than never.....right?

Lastly, I was able to connect with so many amazing ladies that weekend because of the focus I put on my why. The intentions I set for this show. The presence I had with each person.

Later as I was reflecting on the weekend I FINALLY realized I have done exactly what I had been desiring for my business since the day I sat down and designed my first bracelet. I traveled down the road of growth (the evolution of my designs), frustration (how to be discovered), success (which I was blind to due to looking too far into the future and not being present).....and only after taking a hot minute to stop and reflect did I realize I had made it. 

In the beginning of building The Onyx Feather I also had a personal blog Meet with Tisa where I offered up advice... some personal and some educational on how to overcome life's shit and rise up above it all to find yourself so you could start traveling through your life's journey with courage and intention. I struggled to separate the two, not sure how they could come together as one. Jewelry and for the lack of a better phrase Life Coach.

Then like a freakin sledge hammer to the side of my head (pretty sure it was my angel Grandma popping me on the side of the head) I saw it. I felt it. I smiled and shook my head Yeeeeees! And, yep before this show I found a black and grey feather lying in my path. I displayed the feather on one of the tables during the entire show.

Grey and black feathers bring the message: 

  • a message to find peace within yourself
  • the neutral aspect represents neutrality in your question - the answer is not black and white but grey, and hence neither yes or no but perhaps in the middle or a combination of both
  • wisdom & the attainment of mastery - a message that wisdom is within you
  • a nudge that you are on the right track
  • authenticity
  • flexibility

Through my presence and with sharing information regarding gemstone healing properties I was able to bring to two together. It was right there in the grey area all along. I was too focused on the black and white I didn't see it. It took me four years for this to come to light.

You may resonate with these same or similar struggles and needed to hear this story now more than ever. I send strength and courage your way. Look in the grey areas, what are they trying to tell you. 

African Turquoise Jasper is a stone that awakens the soul. It provides structure, balance, prosperity, eases mood swings and encourages acceptance. 

African Turquoise Jasper is a stone that awakens the soul. It provides structure, balance, prosperity, eases mood swings and encourages acceptance. 

Like a Lotus Flower we too can rise above the muck with strength, perseverance, fortune and promise. Each day is a chance for a new beginning but we must be present in the moment to have an affect on it.

Rise Above The Muck and Don't Give a F**K

The bud of the lotus flower symbolizes potential, it is pure, bright and absolutely beautiful.

Whereas the lotus flower represents an awakening, spiritual growth and enlightenment.

I'm sure most of you have seen lotus flowers clustered together in a pond......a dark murky still body of water. Yet the beauty of each flower gives the pond a splash of color.

Lotus flower symbolizes more over on blog at

How can something so beautiful emerge from the water so perfectly clean? It's hard to grasp that concept, isn't it?

But each flower does just that....emerging from the water clean, the lotus flower represents purity of body, speech and mind.

The lotus flower may be thought of as an awakened mind, one that grows naturally toward the light of truth, love and compassion. 

Although the lotus may appear fragile it is far from that, it is flexible and strong securely anchored under the surface of the water.

The ability to rise out of murky nasty water and open up to the sun in pure beauty and strength is why I chose to add the lotus flower to my designs. 

The lotus represents to me that no matter how ugly life gets we can rise above it all strong, focused, loving, and pure.

Seeing the lotus helps keep me in check with just how far above the muck I have come and how strong I am because of it.

Sometimes it takes a little muck for us to not give a f**k and stand tall for what we want and believe in.

Embrace the muck and as you rise above it open your heart and mind to the beauty around you. Close your eyes and empty your mind from the clutter, breathe in the freshness of the air. When you open your eye look around you and see the beauty that surrounds you. Express gratitude. Set your affirmations.

If you're having trouble seeing the beauty that surrounds you it may be a good time to declutter your life.

  • Declutter your home; become a minimalist.
  • Walk away from toxic relationships; even relatives.
  • Clean up your finances; Credit Karma is a good place to help manage your goals.
  • Detox your body; Cleanse, eat organic, drinks lots of water, do yoga, and meditate. 

This will allow you to FREE your mind, LIGHTEN your heart and OPEN your soul to possibilities. You will feel better and think clearer. You will smile more and worry less. You will be more positive and open to possibilities. Like the song goes "Free your mind and the rest will follow.....".

As I mentioned earlier the lotus helps to remind me that I have rose above my struggles (murky waters) and I'm a stronger person because of it. Wearing my lotus bracelet is a reminder of my strength and of the possibilities awaiting me. Get your lotus bracelet here

xoxo Tisa


Lava Gemstone

Lava Facts

Lava stone is most likely the oldest and most frequently found the world. It has been used by many cultures. In folk remedies lava stones were given to soldiers to help them remain calm during battle.

This year I visited the Wai'anapanapa Black Sand Beach in Maui. This beach is breath taking with its surrounding huge lava stones, literally everywhere.  In the picture below take a look at the green plant growing all over the lava stone. The entire beach had a continuous flow of this plant blanketing the lava stone. So pretty!!


How is Lava Made

Lava stone come for the core of the earth where it is formed from magma erupted from a volcano.  The fiery brimstone bubbles to the surface and cools. Once the stone cools, it becomes porous and black. 

These stones contain elemental powers of fire and earth. Lava stones are rich in minerals from deep in the Earth's core. 

Where is Lava Found

Lava stone can be found near volcanos and in or near the ocean.

Lava Meaning

In its solid state lava is a stone of courage and gives people stability as they go through changes in their lives. Lava also helps to diminish the negative aspects of one's character and allows us to see where modifications might be needed.

Healing Properties of Lava

Emotional - Lava stone is known for it's grounding qualities. It also calms the emotions. Because it comes for raw energy, it's considered to be a stone of rebirth and shedding unneeded layers of emotional attachment. An excellent to aid healing, especially when you are feeling depressed or lack energy and vitality.

Spiritual - Lava stone stabilize and ground the rook chakra. This is because of the strong connection to the earth and its creation with the center of Mother Earth.

Other areas lava stone can assist are:

  1. Cleansed negativity
  2. Enhances creativity
  3. Raises Libido
  4. Considered to be a fertility stone for women
  5. Raises Energy levels
  6. Helps with anger management
  7. Brings physical and mental strength and courage
  8. Brings stabilty

Energies of Lava

Lava stone is best when wore next to skin because the barrier for absorption is not blocked by anything. 

One can also place lava stone in rooms in order to help with emotional clearing, or to keep thing energetically balanced.

If you are going through changes in your life lava stone would be the perfect stone to wear.